Awww… the grandparent guilt trip.
Depending on whether you have a sensitive mother, you might get the ‘will I ever be a grandmother’ talk. Your mother might say it directly to you or you know that she is chatting about it to all her friends. If she is aware about your fertility struggles, than dear old mom should really keep it quiet. I have a great and sensitive mother but I don’t know about the rest of you.
The great grandmother guilt trip is even worse. Since your grandmother probably doesn’t know about your infertility struggles, she will always say that she will be ‘in her grave before she gets a great grandchild.’
You know what granny, you may be right! But I promise I will bring your great grandchild right to the grave site.
Your grandmother probably wouldn’t understand about infertility or IVF. In her day, no one was infertile or at least no one talked about in public (or blogged about it!). She might often ask you ‘when are you going to have a baby already?’ Since you don’t want to upset her, you tell her that ‘you don’t know’ or ‘it’s not up to you anymore.’ She will not understand either comment and will conclude that your husband isn’t ready yet. How come no one ever asks him this question?
Mother, Grandmother, you will get a grandchild when the doctor shoves my husband’s sperm into my uterus. Perhaps 4 to 10 years later, you will be able to call yourself ‘grandma.’ Congratulations! Mazel Tov!