Infertility, Infertility, Infertility! Am I making you uncomfortable, Aunt Martha or how about you, Nana? Well, I should be because infertility is the most happening taboo subject of the year!
No one talks about it, everyone feels alone with it, yet infertility is a very common problem that no one likes to discuss. It’s okay to talk openly about your latest root canal at the dentist and eye doctors appointment but fertility appointment, not so much. And it’s perfectly acceptable for your dad to go into unnecessary detail about his latest Colonoscopy (aka- a bum procedure), describing in detail how he cleaned out his bowels before his butt appointment. But you would hardly tell him that you’re off to the fertility clinic for your morning transvaginal wand appointment and vampire sucking blood work. “I’ll be late for lunch dad, I have an appointment at the fertility clinic and then I’m off to the dentist!” And it’s even socially acceptable to go into detail about your other medical appointments explaining the reason you made the appointment in the first place. “Just removing a wart today at the doctors, getting my neck gear tightened at the dentist office and or even getting my yearly Pap Smear done today!” It’s perfectly acceptable for women to talk about getting a mammogram but fertility appointment, yup. still off topic. And God forbid, you could make someone squirm by going into details about your fertility appointment. “I went to my clinic appointment today and they washed hubby’s semen and then inserted it into my uterus.”
Mentioning even the word “fertility doctor,” “IUI” or “IVF,” makes people feel uncomfortable. It’s like no one wants to hear about and are comfortable at even the very mention. It’s no wonder every woman feels extremely alone during the infertility process because no one talks about openly and you end up feeling like you are the only person going through this. The good news is you are not alone and you can talk about it, if you decide because it will make you feel better. Once you start talking about it, you often find out more couple’s are going through a similar situation.
Infertility does not have to be a taboo topic.