You know the game. You play it almost every week. The ‘next year at this time I better be pregnant’ game.
The game takes on many forms including: ‘Next year at this time,’ I could have a baby. ‘Next year at this time,’ I might be on maternity leave. ‘Next year at this time’ I better be pregnant already. This ‘game’ is played many times throughout your infertility journey.
When you first start TTC, the ‘game’ is almost fun….
On your birthday: next year at this time, I will be pregnant.
Valentines Day: next month, my husband and I will be enjoying lots of baby-making!
In the dentist chair: next time I sit in the dentist chair, I could be 5 months pregnant.
Christmas: next year at this time, there will be a baby.
In the summer: next summer, my husband and I will happily grow our family.
When you start having infertility problems, the ‘game’ gets less fun….
Birthday: next year at this time, I will have gone through fertility treatments.
Valentines Day, next month, my husband and I will be charting our baby-making.
Dentist chair: next time I sit in the dentist chair, I hope I’ve ovulated at least once.
Christmas: next year at this time, the adoption process from Korea might have started.
Summer: next summer, my husband and I will be in fertility counselling.
My advice is don’t play this ‘game’ too often. It’s really not that fun. Twister, Go Fish and Janga are better options for you.
Absolutely. This game aint much fun.
Amen to that. Played the game (and sometimes still do!)…but it's definitely not fun anymore!
These games are no fun! But as many times as I tell myself to stop, I just keep on doing it! Oh well, I guess it is just part of going through all of this!
Worst. Game. Ever.
I burst into tears passing the pumpkin patch where we get our pumpkins each year. The past 2 Halloweens have been full of dreams of taking pictures of a baby among the pumpkins. This year is just another one for the books.
Another game not to play: "How I am going to tell my husband/parents/friends that I am pregnant?" Seriously, stop playing the games. Your husband (as mine does) will attest to the fact that they make you crazy…or crazier than infertility already makes you.
I only play the "How I am going to tell my husband/parents that I am pregnant" game once every two weeks now.
Thanks everyone for your comments. Love them!
Carly – That game breaks my heart every month because I can no longer use that amazing way to tell them once Christmas/my birthday/Father's Day/you name it passes.
Incidentally, I just started using quicken again and realized that in planning my financial future about a year ago, I had put baby #1 as arriving Jan '09, baby #2 Jan '11, and baby #3 July '12. HA! Since I'm on my 19th cycle TTC #1 and if I'm lucky this cycle my EDD will be April 09, I doubt any of the rest will fall into place. (sigh)